One of my lifetime values is generosity. I believe we need to care for others, that as we are generous, we become something better and we bring value and dignity to fellow humans. It is a place for me to put my faith into action.

“A person first starts to live when he can live outside of himself.”

- Albert Einstein

“A generous person will prosper, whoever refreshes others will be refreshed” Proverbs 11:25 “Should you give away what you have? Of course, you should. I want you to consider making your lives one long gift to others, and why not? All the other stuff you have is just on loan. Giving isn’t about the receiver or the gift but the giver. It’s for the giver. One doesn’t open one’s wallet to improve the world, although it’s nice when it happens. One opens one’s wallet to improve one’s self.”

- Stephen King to the 2001 graduating class of Vassar college

This page is dedicated to being that load lifter for others. Many times, in my life others have come along side of me and lifted my load. I am grateful for their load lifting. It’s a way to love, to care, and be involved. To care means to look after and provide for the needs of others.

Periodically I will post different BRAVEMAN involvement with others and different organizations that I will give too from the funds you support me with from joining The Mettlemen League or through BraveWear! It’s a way for me to be a good steward with your financial support.

So, thank you for joining me and influencing our world together!

Two are better than one…always!

John R. Hatfield
a single dollar could make life better

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Amigos For Christ

Every May I take men to Nicaragua for a week to be involved with Amigos for Christ. We work shoulder-to-shoulder with Amigos For Christ to bring clean water, healthcare, education, and economic opportunity to Nicaragua's rural communities in need.

One Thread Project

At the very beginning, The One Thread Project was born out of deep desire to find a different narrative for children in Congo- instead of orphanages, families. We took a step back and asked a bigger question. What were the obstacles that separated mothers and their children? While many of the answers are complex, one is simple. Being able to provide a roof overhead and food for the belly requires access to money, which requires job skills. If we could walk it back to this step, then just maybe we could make an impact. Maybe one child might not become an orphan.

In a region that suffers from crippling rates of unemployment, many young people are unskilled and uneducated. The One Thread project seeks to change this through job and business training. Many women come to the Espoir Women's Center after being unable to complete high school due to rising school fees. They want to provide for their families, they want to make a better life for themselves, they are eager to learn.

BraveManSociety is committed to helping women climb out of oppression and destitution. We will buy a sewing machine every year to this end, supporting One Thread Project! I met Amy and Suzanne when they were students at The University of Nebraska, and I mentored Suzanne’s husband, Dave and Amy’s husband Austin! I love their vision and commitment to make a difference in our world. Leaders make things happen, pay the price, and navigate the adversities to accomplish the dream!
John R. Hatfield



When I look through the REARVIEW MIRROR of my life I am a different man, father, husband, and leader because of the significant mentors, both men and women who have invested in my life. I deeply value mentoring and have been involved in it for decades. In graduate school, I did my thesis on mentoring. I have been published numerous times on the topic and get asked to speak and lead mentoring training for numerous organizations.

My definition of mentoring:

A mentor is someone with knowledge and skill that empowers a learner through example, instruction, dialogue, affirmation, challenge and support, preferably, in the context of an authentic relationship.  Mentoring is yoking in numerous forms. A yoke is a devise for joining together a pair of draft animals. To yoke means to be or become joined, a bond, linked or united. Mentoring happens when a mentor and mentee choose to yoke together to accomplish something they can’t un-yoked. Mentors are the ones who direct us to the difficult, the hard, laborious work that guides us to mastery. A Mentor has been there, they have been where a mentee needs to go, that’s what qualifies them as a mentor and that’s what a mentee desires for growth and change. Mentors guide and empower to the authenticity of the formation of the mentee, not to replicate themselves. Mentors promote critical thinking with personal discovery, allowing the mentee to arrive at their own conclusion without judgment. They provide a safe learning environment for self-development and professional-development of the mentee. It is a delicate tightrope where the mentor shares experiences; insights, advice, their own pitfalls and opinions when asked by the mentee yet support autonomy, personal choices and conclusions that may differ from their own. 

After reading, Scary Close, an incredible read I totally recommend by Don Miller I decided to give to his nonprofit, The Mentoring Project monthly.



People have gone through our mentor training across the United States, Canada, Latin America, Africa and New Zealand. We have trained mentors in Portland, Los Angeles, New York, Austin, Vancouver, Chicago, Memphis, Dallas, OKC, Cleveland, Philadelphia, Miami and dozens of other cities.

 If you are interested in having us conduct a mentor training in your city, email :

 *All Mentor Training materials are being updated and will be re-released in the next few months. Thank you for your patience!


The pervasive sense that one is fundamentally bad, inadequate, defective, unworthy, or not fully valid, has given definition through the years to many in the LGBTQ community by the following agents of shame: family, religious communities, media, schools, peers, workplace, and culture. It robs the person of their identity, self –respect, dignity, and personhood. These destructive shame agents pass the verdict of condemnation, judgment, and hate. When someone or a culture takes the position of judging, they are taking a position of superiority over the person they judge. This self -righteous, arrogant, condescending, damning position comes from unhealthy people. Unhealthy people reside in both straight and gay communities.

Renowned shame researcher Brene Brown (2007) defines shame as "the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging-something we've experienced, done, or failed to do makes us unworthy of connection". Shame agents want the LGBTQ community to believe they are flawed and unworthy of acceptance and belonging. Recently, I sadly heard of a home school seventeen year old who came to his fundamental/evangelical parents telling them he was gay, whose response to his vulnerability, was to disown and throw him out of the house.

It made me sick to my stomach. No one can change how God created and designed them.

The Trevor Project

"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter."
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

"The ultimate tragedy is not the oppression and cruelty by the bad people but the silence over that by the good people."
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

"There comes a time when silence is betrayal."
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

"Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere."
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Founded in 1998 by the creators of the Academy Award®-winning short film TREVOR, The Trevor Project is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer & questioning (LGBTQ) young people under 25.

The Trevor Project is committed to producing research that brings new knowledge and clinical implications to the field of suicidology. The organization looks to fulfill their mission through four strategies: provide crisis counseling to LGBTQ+ young people thinking of suicide, offer supportive counseling and a sense of community to young LGBTQ+ people in order to reduce suicide, educate young people and adults who interact with young people on LGBTQ+ competent suicide prevention, and advocate for laws and policies that will reduce suicide among LGBTQ+ young people.


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Brave CARES was last modified: July 19th, 2020 by John R. Hatfield